New Rules

Right is right even if no one is doing it — what feels right, or difficult, probably is Let go of complaining — negativity and complaining or "venting" doesn't actually solve anything, and time is of the essence Let go of self-defeating ideas — imaginary hurdles warp our ideas about what is possible Let go of fears — healthy... Read more →

Sopa de Pescado

My recipe is based on a soup I had at La Calle Doce, a few googled recipes, and my own experiments. The ingredient measurements are approximate because I don't usually measure stuff when I'm making up a recipe. Ping me @stealingsand if you have questions or flavor problems... Variations: Add cancha to the finished soup Use shrimp... Read more →

An organized life.

In the midst of all of the changes, and the moving and the chaos in my life I'm finding a need for more order. I had movers pack and move my belongings and a few thousand dollars later, I'm looking at a lot of this stuff thinking WTF, I paid to move this and I don't even care about it.   But I might need it someday It's a very... Read more →
Journal 9

Why I’m Doing It – For Me

The Challenge: Fit Girls | 28 Day Jumpstart A dear friend of mine, Gretchen, told me about this fitness challenge, one that we could do together. Initially, I bought the regimen because she asked, and because I love doing things with her, and in the abstract I knew I needed to do something about my shape some day — before I don't have a... Read more →

Thank you, Tablo

This past year has been a time of huge changes for me, and huge emotional hurdles that I’ve had to overcome. I was still healing from my accident the year before, then I lost my Chicken, and then I fell into a deep depression. I’ve been climbing out of that, on a thin rope, overcoming these multiple assaults to my self-image, and my... Read more →

Top Recipes I’ve Found Online

When I changed my diet, I went on the prowl for delicious vegetarian recipes because I knew I couldn't do it without making everything delicious. I've also been hoarding recipes for years, so some of these have been digitized, not necessarily internet-sourced, but definitely in my "go-to meals" folder. What are some of your favorite... Read more →

Happiness Theory

I have a theory about happiness. Happiness is a closed circle, not an endless container you can fill and fill. Its limits are our humanity and finite ability to invest energies. If you invest more energy into one slice, the others must shrink. It takes the space allotted to the other slices, and happiness in those arenas... Read more →

2015 Plans — Part II

How do you want to remember the year 2015 when you look back on it 10/20/50 years from now? I want to remember 2015 as they year I got back up, dusted myself off, got back in the saddle and at least chose a direction to ride in. The year I figured the important things out and moved forward. What is your number one goal for 2015? Grow,... Read more →
Short Stories

Part III: Forfeit

The white-white wings were missing. And now knew, after three-hundred-thousand minutes, definitely gone. She looked up from the burnt-out grove she had found in the dark among the trees, lost and alone, but still here. As if an afterthought, she looked deep inside herself for the small, —invisible, almost— spark of... Read more →

Meal Planning: Recipes and The List

"I don't know, what do YOU want for dinner..." A few years ago, tired of the dinner conversation, and no way to keep track of recipes and ingredients at the store, nothing to bring to lunch every day, and the "I would make XYZ but I don't have any cornstarch" dilemmas, we put the titles of all of our favorite dishes into a shared google... Read more →

2015 Plans — Part I

What do you want the overarching theme for your 2015 to be? "So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality. What we really want seems impossibly out of reach and ridiculous to expect, so we never dare to ask the universe for it. I’m saying, I’m the proof that you can ask the universe for it..." — Jim... Read more →

In Retrospect (2014)

Listening to: Tablo (ft. Lee Sora) - Home (집) It's hard to say most of these things without them sounding trite, or resorting to tired aphorisms. But I know these things now — they're integrated into my DNA after this year. Most of them are things I struggle with, still. 1. Love does not conquer all. No matter how much you... Read more →

My 2014 In Music

10 Most-Played Songs This Year Interestingly, these were all bought this year — even if I hadn't bought them all this year - this is all I listened to. 465 plays: Trust (Live In Hong Kong / 2013) Eason Chan 陳奕迅 243 plays: 눈, 코, 입 Eyes, Nose, Lips — Taeyang 태양 238 plays: Stay With Me (feat. G-DRAGON) — Taeyang... Read more →